Ascent Through The Dark Night Of The Soul: My Life Reflections
I cannot make these stories from my life nice and neat or, rather, whitewashed and sweet, in order to make them more palatable, or easier to cope with, for anyone reading them. Whenever the truth gets watered-down, it stops being the truth! I have lived through all these things. It is my story. It is what it is. Our lives are greatly affected by the pervasive consequences of Original Sin, the sins of others, and our own sin, and we must acknowledge that.
Wednesday, October 30, 2024
Rhyme Or Reason: More Of My Musings...
Wednesday, October 23, 2024
To My Readers . . .
Today was my target date to publish this month's blog post online, but I have been VERY busy this week, trying to deal with several pressing matters that need my attention, sooner than later, and there's only so many hours in a day.
One of the current challenges is that my heart is acting up a lot right now, which is potentially dangerous, mostly because it is also doing a lot of atrial fibrillation, and therefore must be dealt with right away. A normal blood pressure is considered to be around 120/80, and a normal pulse around 60 - 100 beats per minute.
Yesterday I was very pale and felt very weak-- almost flu-like; like I could easily faint. I check my blood pressure at home, and these were my readings yesterday, along with the monitor screen also displaying the symbol for heart arrhythmia with each reading:
82/44
94/56 with 105 pulse
105/63 with 103 pulse
89/48
111/66
I still feel rather shaky, after yesterday-- not fully recovered from that struggle my heart was going through, and my blood pressure readings are only marginally better today, with the monitor screen continuing to show the symbol for heart arrhythmia, which is a serious condition that can lead to heart attack, stroke, or even death.
I don't have these health issues crop up every day, thankfully, and I am really sad that my arrhythmia is back because it disappeared several months ago and had not troubled me for a while.
Because of trying to recover more fully, and hopefully end the heart fibrillations, as well as accomplish more things on my 'To Do List' that need doing ASAP, I have decided to aim for publishing this month's blog post next Wednesday instead, at the latest, if not sooner.
If a post doesn't occur, at some point, when I haven't provided you with any explanation or information about that, it may mean that a health issue of some kind, or something else, has rendered me unable to write my blog post(s) anymore; at least for a while.
I am 68 now, so every day I live I must hold the precious privilege of life on earth with an open hand.
Thank you for your understanding.
I appreciate your readership throughout these 6 years that I have written this blog, which has readers in 70 countries around the world now. That always amazes me!
I would also appreciate any and all prayers that you offer on my behalf.
Thank you so much!
Deb
Wednesday, September 18, 2024
Two Steps Forward And One Step Back
I feel frustrated so often lately because I just cannot seem to get enough traction toward achieving goals that I have for myself. Even though I'm a lot more patient than I used to be (which is ironic in that I have less time left to achieve my goals, now that I am in my late 60s) and I'm able to discipline myself much better when it comes to delayed gratification than I used to be able to do, the hindrances, and obstacles, that I, continually, have to deal with, are dragging me down, mentally.
I am gratified by all the progress that I have made with so many things, and I try to remind myself of that when I start to feel helpless, and hopeless, in the face of the lingering list of things that I still need, and want, to achieve in my life. What I have accomplished is actually impressive by my standards and I need to be proud of all of that. I recall being able to tackle every single thing, on my 'To Do List', in the past, though, and in a relatively short amount of time, which is, no longer the case, in my life. There are some new limitations now that did not exist before that I'm always grappling with. Some are entirely out of my control, and others I could probably do more about, but, for various reasons, I haven't. All of this, causes me to alternate between being mad at the situations and mad at myself, for not doing more about those that I can. >sigh!< EVERY decision, we make, AFFECTS our life.
sacrifices that I have made, in order to socialize with people, in general, and most especially for those that I have loved, what I would be risking, to expose myself to other people, is simply not worth, what that could cost me, for what it gives me. I don't just mean, health wise. I mean, in any, and even, every, way. PEOPLE, have not been worth it for me. Humans have done me much more harm than good, and because of that I don't see taking life or death risks for them to be a smart choice.
"Narcissists often dislike the word 'no' because it represents a direct challenge to their perceived authority and control," Dr. McGeehan says. "To a narcissist, 'no' can feel like a rejection or a denial of their importance, which can be very threatening to their ego."
A narcissist will give others misleading information about you. They will tell partial truths mixed with lies. They will sow seeds of dissension to cause doubt in the listeners in an effort to turn them against you.
The main advice the victim or target of a narcissist gets is "Cut off all contact with them if you can."
The truth is irrelevant to toxic individuals. If they can't control you, they set out to ruin you.
Targets are usually anyone who is “different” from the organizational norm. Usually victims are competent, educated, resilient, outspoken, challenge the status quo, are more empathic or attractive and tend to be women.
When people can't get what they want from you, they'll either cut you off, spread lies or recruit others to hate you too.
Narcissists will talk horribly about their targets. They get to people who have never met the victim, to make sure the first thing they hear is negative. Then it spreads. It's usually that 'the victim has mental problems', this way no one believes the abuse. #SmearCampaign
Stopworkplacebullies @Stopworkplacebu
Gossip can be an insidious form of bullying or harassment. If the intent is to demean, propagate lies or half truths about people, or designed to hurt, denigrate and destroy reputations behind people's backs, then gossip has crossed a line into harassment.
Stopworkplacebullies @Stopworkplacebu
Smear Campaigns can insidiously spread with no real direction or control once it starts...
It changes things when we realize the narcissist intentionally provokes us. They actually enjoy seeing our grief. Happy, having a good time? That's when they're most likely to strike.
Stopworkplacebullies @Stopworkplacebu
Character assassination and ostracization are used to sever the target's belonging to her community.
Wisdom And Skill @WisdomAndSkill
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Just know what they are doing behind your back is also done in front of God.
Stopworkplacebullies @Stopworkplacebu
Anyone who easily believes lies about you without hearing your side of the story, was probably looking for a reason to be against you, anyway.
It dishonors victims of abuse when we are silent about their experience or pretend it did not occur or was not important.
People will notice the change in your attitude towards them but won't notice that it was their behavior that made you change.
There are a lot of brave and kind people who have very little support. They assume it’s because they’re too much, when the reality is, it's because they’re honest. That’s not something easily digested by most people, but especially in a world where performance is key.
Fake is becoming so acceptable that people get offended when you're being real.
Some people will vilify you so they feel better about what they did to you. God forbid they be held accountable for their BS.
A narcissist uses your anger against you when your anger is justified due to their shit behavior. They do this to deflect accountability.
You don't have to defend yourself or argue with those who don't believe you. God saw it all...
Josh @JD_Quotes2017
I don't walk away to teach people a lesson. I walk away because I learned mine. I'd rather adjust my life to your absence than adjust my boundaries to accommodate your disrespect.
Tuesday, August 20, 2024
Here Are More Of My Poems And Lyrics....
Maybe There's A Reason
Maybe I'm just
too plain, or too thin,
to catch the attention
of the right men.
Maybe my glasses,
or '32B's,
are the things that
are failing to please.
Maybe my age,
makes it too late,
for men to ask me
out on a date.
Maybe because
I seem solemn to some,
they never find out
I'm a whole lot of fun!
Maybe because
I'm a little too wild,
or maybe, for them,
I'm a little too mild.
Maybe
my not finding love
is not because
I'm not enough.
Maybe they're
just not my type,
even when
they do seem nice.
Maybe they
just left a store,
as I was coming
in that door.
Maybe moving
out of state,
cost me the man
I'm meant to date.
Maybe I was
asked to dance,
and he assumed
I have romance.
Politics,
could be why,
I've not found love
with any guy.
Maybe there's
too many jerks,
and guys that have
repulsive quirks.
Maybe he
just doesn't see,
all the good things
about me.
Maybe he
just got fed up.
Stopped his search.
Gave up on love.
He might be home,
watching TV,
not going out
and finding me.
Maybe he
just got a pet,
and now he feels like,
he's all set.
Maybe he thinks,
he is gay,
or bi, or something,
but not straight.
Maybe someone
stole his heart,
before we met.
Kept us apart.
Perhaps the one that
I was meant for,
joined the service
and died in war.
I am a 'night owl',
through and through,
and that could be
the reason, too.
Most folks rise
to greet the day,
but that has never
been my way.
It makes it really
hard to meet,
when they're awake
while I'm asleep.
Or maybe God
decided He
wouldn't make
a man for me.
Regardless of
the reason why,
it is sadly true,
that I,
have never met
my true soulmate.
It seems like
love is not my fate.
The Object Of Our Love
It's not what they are,
but how we feel,
that lets us know
our love is real.
We feel inspired by
stirred emotion
(which evokes
our deep devotion
to the person,
pet, or thing),
that woke our heart
and made it sing.
That is why,
if feelings change,
though that object
seems the same,
We see it
in a different way,
than we did
just yesterday.
There's nothing
we can do about,
falling in love,
and falling out.
that other folks provide.