Wednesday, November 20, 2024

Today is not that day.

Dear Readers,

I discovered quite a while ago that I cannot write these blog posts AND stay on top of everything else that my life demands of me, as a single, solitary, individual. I've begun to get a lot more done in my life, including, a lot that has 'needed doing' for a long time now. But, that has also meant that some of my blog posts have had to wait, to be written, and presented online, for you to read, when I am past the self-imposed monthly deadline, to at least get one online no later than the next-to-the-last Wednesday of every month. I've always let you know when it happens though.

Today IS the next-to-last Wednesday of this month, and I sit here sore from all the physical deep-cleaning I did for about 8 hours yesterday, and sleep-deprived, after a long night of lying in bed thinking of sad, and stressful, things that have affected me deeply, and traumatized me, even though, I wanted, and needed, sleep. Being sleep-deprived alters the entire course of my day, including, derailing productivity, as it wipes away all of my hopes and plans to energetically engage my To Do List. 

So, I am letting you know that, although today IS my Target Date to publish a post online for this blog, today is not that day. I am too tired, and stressed, to try to sit here and write in any coherent way. I've even reread this note to you a few times, to try to be sure that I am being clear, because I am too tired to recall what I just typed to you. Days like this sometimes mean that I even skip my shower, and just try to get through it, with so little energy, by placing minimum demands on myself.

It's my expectation that there will be a proper blog post for this month sometime. 

Deb

Wednesday, October 30, 2024

Rhyme Or Reason: More Of My Musings...



Here are more of my poems. Some of them were written quite awhile back, but I only share some of the things I write and that's only when I feel like I can do so.




Never

                                   I've never had my happy ending.                                  
I've never had my dream-come-true.
I've never known the way it feels,
When Mr. Right says, "I love you."
My life has not gone like a movie,
Though it's been a tragedy.
There's no one special in my life,
Saying that they care for me.
The hourglass's sand flows quickly,
Reminding me each passing day,
Though my heart's on fire with passion,
Love has never found a way.
I've forgotten how a kiss feels.
I can't imagine an embrace,
Or someone's eyes aglow with love,
As they look into my face.
Romantic movies tease my longing,
All their plotlines end in love.
It's not my heart that men want from me.
My love must not be good enough.




An Honest Dating Site Profile

'Available, except my heart'.
You should know that from the start.
Someone stole my heart from me,
But it simply cannot be,
That I will end up in their arms,
Despite the pull of all their charms.
But I can have some fun with you,
If that is what you'd like to do.
I need to laugh, and play, and dance.
Maybe finally find romance.
There may be comfort to be had,
That will make me feel less sad.
But I must tell you, to be fair,
That my heart will not be there.




Be Still My Heart

Be still my heart!
Go back to sleep.
You feel a love
You cannot keep.
You love someone
Not meant for you,
And there is nothing
You can do.
You must let go.
You must move on.
You must resist,
Until it's gone.
They love someone 
That is God's will,
And so, my heart,
You must be still.




[NOTE: The other day I was smiling as I heard yet another country song about a good ol' boy in a pickup truck with his dog. Amazed that so many country music songwriters have found the words to describe this fairly limited subject matter, I decided to challenge myself to write my own version. I hope mine doesn't sound too much like someone else's though, as I don't know a huge number of country songs, considering that I only fell in love with the genre a couple of years ago or so. I assure you that so far I've never heard my words below from anyone else.]

 My Ode To Country Music

He pulled up in a pickup truck,
And sure enough, he picked me up.
He flashed a smile that made me melt.
I felt things I've never felt.
I was jealous of his pup.
His petting her got my pulse up.
The way his fingers stroked her fur,
 Made me want to switch with her.
He was hot, ain't no denyin'.
He turned me on, and I ain't lyin'.
I asked him in, but he said no,
Telling me he had to go.
The last I saw of him that day,
Was taillights as he drove away.
He stayed on the straight and narrow,
but I was struck by Cupid's arrow.
His dog's a very lucky bitch,
But he refused to scratch my itch.
I wish that good ol' boy had been
In the mood to share some sin.




A Lie 

If you're moving your mouth,
You're telling a lie,
And you never explain,
When I ask you why.
I don't think you'd like me
to do that to you,
But you seem to think 
It's alright that you do.
Just don't act insulted 
I doubt what you say.
When you choose to tell lies,
There's a price to be paid.
I wish I could trust you,
Because I do care.
But you made that hard,
When you went there.
You made the choice,
To treat me this way.
So this is on you,
At the end of the day.
So don't climb up on
Your high and mighty,
In front of me,
And the Almighty.




Unanswered Prayers

  There must be something I can say,
To have You take this pain away,
From my very broken heart,
Because it's tearing me apart.
Human love can feel like Hell,
When it isn't going well.
One-sided love feels like a curse.
I don't think it could be worse.
A love with nowhere it can go.
The circumstance has dammed the flow.
Was I made to love a man?
It doesn't seem to be Your Plan.
What am I supposed to do?
All the answers lie with You.
I pray but still You do not say
If You'll take this pain away.
Tell me clearly what to do.
I've brought my broken heart to You.


Wednesday, October 23, 2024

To My Readers . . .

Today was my target date to publish this month's blog post online, but I have been VERY busy this week, trying to deal with several pressing matters that need my attention, sooner than later, and there's only so many hours in a day.

One of the current challenges is that my heart is acting up a lot right now, which is potentially dangerous, mostly because it is also doing a lot of atrial fibrillation, and therefore must be dealt with right away. A normal blood pressure is considered to be around 120/80, and a normal pulse around 60 - 100 beats per minute.

Yesterday I was very pale and felt very weak-- almost flu-like; like I could easily faint. I check my blood pressure at home, and these were my readings yesterday, along with the monitor screen also displaying the symbol for heart arrhythmia with each reading:

82/44

94/56 with 105 pulse

105/63 with 103 pulse

89/48

111/66

I still feel rather shaky, after yesterday-- not fully recovered from that struggle my heart was going through, and my blood pressure readings are only marginally better today, with the monitor screen continuing to show the symbol for heart arrhythmia, which is a serious condition that can lead to heart attack, stroke, or even death.

I don't have these health issues crop up every day, thankfully, and I am really sad that my arrhythmia is back because it disappeared several months ago and had not troubled me for a while.

Because of trying to recover more fully, and hopefully end the heart fibrillations, as well as accomplish more things on my 'To Do List' that need doing ASAP, I have decided to aim for publishing this month's blog post next Wednesday instead, at the latest, if not sooner.

If a post doesn't occur, at some point, when I haven't provided you with any explanation or information about that, it may mean that a health issue of some kind, or something else, has rendered me unable to write my blog post(s) anymore; at least for a while.

I am 68 now, so every day I live I must hold the precious privilege of life on earth with an open hand.

Thank you for your understanding.

I appreciate your readership throughout these 6 years that I have written this blog, which has readers in 70 countries around the world now. That always amazes me!

I would also appreciate any and all prayers that you offer on my behalf.

Thank you so much!

Deb


Wednesday, September 18, 2024

Two Steps Forward And One Step Back

I appreciate progress. POSITIVE, progress, anyway. There are some situations in this life where progression is not a positive thing. Disease, damage, deterioration, et cetera.

I feel frustrated so often lately because I just cannot seem to get enough traction toward achieving goals that I have for myself. Even though I'm a lot more patient than I used to be (which is ironic in that I have less time left to achieve my goals, now that I am in my late 60s) and I'm able to discipline myself much better when it comes to delayed gratification than I used to be able to do, the hindrances, and obstacles, that I, continually, have to deal with, are dragging me down, mentally.

I am gratified by all the progress that I have made with so many things, and I try to remind myself of that when I start to feel helpless, and hopeless, in the face of the lingering list of things that I still need, and want, to achieve in my life. What I have accomplished is actually impressive by my standards and I need to be proud of all of that. I recall being able to tackle every single thing, on my 'To Do List', in the past, though, and in a relatively short amount of time, which is, no longer the case, in my life. There are some new limitations now that did not exist before that I'm always grappling with. Some are entirely out of my control, and others I could probably do more about, but, for various reasons, I haven't. All of this, causes me to alternate between being mad at the situations and mad at myself, for not doing more about those that I can. >sigh!< EVERY decision, we make, AFFECTS our life.

I can't control that Covid is still in high transmission, including here, although I at least contribute to it not being spread more by my self-isolation away from others which keeps me from catching it. That choice leaves me with virtually no social life though. I don't go to church services or out dancing or eat indoors at restaurants, although I did sit outside of one to eat lunch with a friend, once, a couple of years ago. I don't date, or kiss, or make love (or have an orgasm that isn't coming from my vibrator), because I am 'high risk for serious illness or death' if I catch Covid. I have only had it once, so far, but avoiding catching it again has left me with no life in a lot of ways. The irony is not lost on me, that in trying to protect my life I have in effect stopped living it. I merely exist in 'survival mode', most of the time, since Covid first covered the world with its highly transmissible potential death sentence several years ago. I caught it frighteningly easily a couple of years ago, and had it for 8 days. I couldn't taste my food, and my breathing seemed to struggle around the 6th day, which scared me, because of seeing the images of intubated patients in ICUs and refrigerated trucks acting as morgues, as well as hearing the constant sound of ambulance sirens back then because of this pandemic. Some Long Covid symptoms that I developed eventually left me, although I was stressed by my not knowing whether that would be the case, at the time. Catching Covid-- EVER!-- is clearly a crapshoot, and is a gamble that I am not willing to take, for anything, or anyone, currently in my life. For me it would be too great a sacrifice, because of a lifetime of my return on investment being so poor when I allow people into my life and close to me. No one knows, each time they catch Covid, how serious it will be, for them, until they are in the throes of it. Based on how my life has gone and the
sacrifices that I have made, in order to socialize with people, in general, and most especially for those that I have loved, what I would be risking, to expose myself to other people, is simply not worth, what that could cost me, for what it gives me. I don't just mean, health wise. I mean, in any, and even, every, way. PEOPLE, have not been worth it for me. Humans have done me much more harm than good, and because of that I don't see taking life or death risks for them to be a smart choice.


One of my personal goals is to learn to dance the tango, although now that I'm 68 I have serious doubts about my knees being able to do the steps without buckling. I even have a very specific song that I want to dance the tango to-- David Bowie's 'Let's Dance'. I realized one day when I had two tabs up on my computer that this song syncs perfectly with the tango moves! [David Bowie - Let's Dance (Official Video) - YouTube] While I like traditional tango music, also, Bowie's song just motivates me more! This style of dance is very much in-your-face for many of the steps, though, which makes it one of those high-risk behaviors I do my best to avoid altogether. I would not want my tango dance to 'go viral', in the pathogenic sense, of the word. The risk of catching Covid continually complicates my life! Sadly, I decided against pursuing learning the dance steps that I long to do, because of my trying to avoid potential missteps in my goal of protecting my health, and along with that my life. 




I have a lifelong phobia* of needles, but, terror, over the Covid pandemic, caused  me to finally be willing to take the first two Pfizer vaccines for it in 2021. The only noticeable physical reaction I had to the first one was the shot site soreness, that is typical for injections into the arm, which lasted for a few days. When I took the second shot, though, I became alarmed, because I felt so unwell from that, and it took a longer time to stop feeling those effects. It seemed like all my organs were inflamed by the vaccine-- especially my kidneys. I actually felt poisoned! Because of that, and my not knowing if the shots did anything to damage my body, in any way-- and, if they did, would that be permanent harm?-- I stopped getting Covid vaccines, ever since then; protecting myself by solely relying on almost complete social isolation, along with mask wearing as needed. I just haven't come across a good reason for me to risk it. I am a loner by nature, as well. I LIKE being alone. 

Finally having a home of my very own was amazing progress that I honestly never thought I would have in my lifetime. My finances took a hit, though, with both the expected and unexpected expenses that come with that. I can't just call a landlord and have him send the maintenance man to repair things, anymore. I have to find and hire my own contractors now, and pay them, myself, for everything they do. I don't even own a car, so I am by no means an affluent person. More than 3 years into it I still have a list of things that this house needs that will cost me thousands of dollars to do. Money that I don't even have, right now. I have to get my savings built up again, though, because I am all alone in this life, with no one to take care of me, but me (and God), and I don't have the income to do both of these things, at the same time. It has to be, one or the other. Right now, I am more concerned about getting some money saved in the bank again if only as an Emergency Fund because it is way too stressful for me knowing that there is nothing there now for any possible life event that I might face. The house does need those things done, at some point, though, and that will probably drain my bank account, again, as I start trying to accomplish all that; hopefully, sometime next year. While having a home of my very own is a huge step forward from where I was, there have been some significant setbacks, from the beginning, that have thwarted my progress.

I was a homeless veteran just a few years before God made it possible for me to own this home. This house is the greatest blessing He's EVER given me, after the great Gift of Himself, and my cockatiel baby, CeeBee, who 'flew Home to Heaven' in 2011. NO HUMAN BEING is even in THE TOP THREE BLESSINGS of my life, for me. I don't think my standards are too high, and regardless, they are what they are. Too many people, who have been in my life, have fallen short, let me down, and worst of all, damaged me, by their presence. Because, of that, I have a dim view of much of humanity, and I am very circumspect when dealing with people. 
What I have been subjected to by people here certainly hasn't helped that view, and in fact, has made the aversion even more pronounced, in me. I had to start scheduling VA telehealth mental health appointments, because of it. I have also called the VA Crisis Line at times, when I have been unable to reduce the stress from this situation, by myself. The gossip, lies, and, truly, horrible, rumors, that the clique here started, and spread, about me, has damaged my reputation and my relationships in this community. It is hard to see neighbors that I could have had good friendships with changing, toward me, because they have heard-- and apparently, believed-- these things about me. Finally having my own home, has been greatly diminished and offset by my having to live my life in the face of all the ongoing defamation of me. I even had another telehealth call about it today. 

When I told my primary care provider that I needed to be scheduled for regular mental health appointments, now, because of this situation being so depressing and distressing to me, to the point that, I became so despondent about it that I didn't know if I could survive it, at one point, and I told her just a couple of the lies that have been told about me by clique members, she was shocked by what she heard was being done to me, to the point that she became speechless. She was so stunned that I had to say to her, on the phone call, "Are you still there?" Hers was a, normal, reaction, to how I have been treated by these people, but I very rarely get that reaction from anyone here, that I have ever reached out to, about it. I even got scolded angrily by one woman here, for simply trying to tell her why her saying to me about it, "Well Deb, people will be people" was a tone deaf assessment of the seriousness of the situation. I was actually explaining to her at the time that my despair over it and the stress and strain it put me under had very nearly cost me my life, when I began to briefly consider suicide, due to  it, in May of 2023. She literally YELLED at me, and said that, 'She didn't want to hear it!' She had no trouble hearing the ugly gossip and lies, about me, though; that was clear to see. She adamantly dismissed the 'clique stuff' as simply being something that I was either, overexaggerating, or it didn't exist, at all. That was very unhelpful to me. My primary care provider's, stunned, reaction to what I've been put through by these people here was an absolutely accurate response, for the seriousness of the situation. It is comforting, to have someone acknowledge the difficulty of living surrounded by the very group of people doing this to me. I have the intense inner conflict of LOVING my home, AND the surrounding area I live in here, but feeling extremely stressed and anxious about how much my life has been altered here, by these, toxic-tongued, bitches. Since it started my first day here, by the main instigator, on my street, I have NEVER had a FAIR chance  to get to know other people here, without them being skeptical, or even wary, of me, because of the horrible and often untrue things they have heard ABOUT ME. So, even as I have gotten more settled here, I have this ongoing obstacle that is
a form of oppression, that I'm forced to deal with, in order to live here; that I try  to overcome, often unsuccessfully, because of dangerous, damaging, defamation.

This situation pervades every aspect of my life, in this, otherwise, idyllic setting.
It all originated from one bigmouth bitch neighbor on my street that did not like my setting boundaries with her because she was so intrusive so often that I had no sense of peace, or privacy, in my life-- two things that I have always needed. She is clearly a NARCISSIST-- the THIRD one, to be the bane of my existence** on this earth, after, my own mother, and my last husband. Narcissists, are, THE  MOST DAMAGING PEOPLE that I have EVER encountered-- especially when they make ME their TARGET. They are so PUNITIVE. Their GOAL is to cause you harm. It is NOT a 'fair fight', with them, AT ALL. They seek to DESTROY you if they can, and IT DOESN'T MATTER TO THEM that you have not done ANYTHING to them to DESERVE THAT from them. It adds INSULT to INJURY that she is also a Christian.
She and I are both in our latter years of life now, and she is even older than I am (so you would think that she would know better, at her age-- only narcissism is a pathology not an ideology), but she chose this path for our relationship. I will not ever be able to have a happy or healthy relationship with this person BECAUSE of all the shockingly cruel things that she's said about me, to our mutual neighbors.

Every day, I thank God for my finally having the perfect home for me, and I hear the sweetest bird calls in the trees outside my window. But every day I also have to deal with my anxiety, because of the things this woman has instigated against me, and I dread even taking my trash out when I need to, just because I have to walk past, not only her house, but the group of neighbors on my street that she's turned against me. It is PURE EVIL, this woman has done to me, and to my life. I have NEVER DESERVED THIS from her-- or from my mother, or my last husband, either. Narcissists don't have a rational reason, for targeting someone, and doing all they can to destroy the person's life. Something dark in their soul drives them to do it. That doesn't excuse it though. She will have to face God about it too, on Judgment Day. Below are some things that help explain what a narcissist is like. I also have a Pinterest account that has a Board I titled "Cligue Target", because of the situation that she has created for me here, and the Pins on that explain it too.

Ever notice the most toxic people.. have more people around them? Bc they are fake and full of stories of lies and gossip.. (sad that gets more attention than the truth speaker.. no one wants to hear that. They stand alone.)

"Narcissists constantly seek validation from others. They need people to praise them, admire them, and make them feel important. This need for validation is a weak point because it shows that their self-esteem is not as solid as they pretend it to be. They rely on others to feel good about themselves."

'People who are narcissistic tend to prefer associations with people that are easier for them to control.'

"Narcissists often dislike the word 'no' because it represents a direct challenge to their perceived authority and control," Dr. McGeehan says. "To a narcissist, 'no' can feel like a rejection or a denial of their importance, which can be very threatening to their ego."

A narcissist will give others misleading information about you. They will tell partial truths mixed with lies. They will sow seeds of dissension to cause doubt in the listeners in an effort to turn them against you.

The scapegoat is most often victimized in a variety of ways, and when they attempt to speak out against the victimization, they are disbelieved and called liars. In addition, they are taken through traumatizing smear campaigns to further discredit and disprove them.

Narcissists use baiting to provoke reactions from their targets. This might be a cruel or condescending comment made with the purpose of starting drama/arguments, making people feel inferior, and/or asserting control, and they will always blame the targets for reacting.

A Narcissist wants to convince you that your emotional reactions to their actions are the problem, when without their actions, you wouldn’t be having those reactions.

Trauma survivors crave honesty and authenticity. We've had to fight for our ability to think clearly and know who we are. We aren't willing to engage with those who do not honor that. We will show them the door.

The main advice the victim or target of a narcissist gets is "Cut off all contact with them if you can."


Here are some Pins from the "Clique Target" Board, which currently has 292 Pins. 














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Truth tellers, whistle-blowers, scapegoats and the real victims are always portrayed as 'crazy.'

Stopworkplacebullies @Stopworkplacebu
The truth is irrelevant to toxic individuals. If they can't control you, they set out to ruin you.

Stopworkplacebullies @Stopworkplacebu
Targets are usually anyone who is “different” from the organizational norm. Usually victims are competent, educated, resilient, outspoken, challenge the status quo, are more empathic or attractive and tend to be women.

Josh @JD_Quotes2017
When people can't get what they want from you, they'll either cut you off, spread lies or recruit others to hate you too.

When toxic people know they've done you wrong, they'll often become fixated with trying to destroy your reputation by spreading lies and slandering information about your private life. Smear Campaigns are a severe form of bullying.

Stopworkplacebullies @Stopworkplacebu
Smear Campaigns are a control tactic.

Lana Beth Horowitz @HorowitzLana
Narcissists will talk horribly about their targets. They get to people who have never met the victim, to make sure the first thing they hear is negative. Then it spreads. It's usually that 'the victim has mental problems', this way no one believes the abuse. #SmearCampaign

Stopworkplacebullies @Stopworkplacebu
Gossip can be an insidious form of bullying or harassment. If the intent is to demean, propagate lies or half truths about people, or designed to hurt, denigrate and destroy reputations behind people's backs, then gossip has crossed a line into harassment.

Stopworkplacebullies @Stopworkplacebu
Smear Campaigns can insidiously spread with no real direction or control once it starts...

Breakingfree @Breakingfreetwo
It changes things when we realize the narcissist intentionally provokes us. They actually enjoy seeing our grief. Happy, having a good time? That's when they're most likely to strike.

Stopworkplacebullies @Stopworkplacebu
Character assassination and ostracization are used to sever the target's belonging to her community.

Wisdom And Skill @WisdomAndSkill
The narcissist agenda: That I could hurt somebody so badly she would never recover. That I can, just by defaming her, damage another human being beyond repair.

Stopworkplacebullies @Stopworkplacebu
Just know what they are doing behind your back is also done in front of God.

Stopworkplacebullies @Stopworkplacebu
A person who doesn't defend you while someone else slanders you is not a friend.

Some people can't support you in public because of how they talk about you in private.

Some people will never ask for your side of the story, because the side they heard fits how they want to feel about you.

Dear abuser, A victim telling their story of your abuse doesn't ruin your reputation or destroy your "perfect life". You did that, when you chose the behavior. Just becuz you're well liked or have a "nice family" doesn't erase the evil your capable of... no matter how long ago.

Josh @JD_Quotes2017
Anyone who easily believes lies about you without hearing your side of the story, was probably looking for a reason to be against you, anyway.

Diane Langberg, PhD @DianeLangberg
It dishonors victims of abuse when we are silent about their experience or pretend it did not occur or was not important.

Christine @cmd8495
People will notice the change in your attitude towards them but won't notice that it was their behavior that made you change.

Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt
There are a lot of brave and kind people who have very little support. They assume it’s because they’re too much, when the reality is, it's because they’re honest. That’s not something easily digested by most people, but especially in a world where performance is key.

Stopworkplacebullies @Stopworkplacebu
Fake is becoming so acceptable that people get offended when you're being real.

Stopworkplacebullies @Stopworkplacebu
Don't change your authenticity for approval.

"Be the bigger person" is BS advice at times. Your bigness is not determined by your capacity to quietly absorb bullying, degradation, or abuse.

Some people are really so delusional that they think it's disrespectful when you don't just sit back and allow them to continue to disrespect you.

Stopworkplacebullies @Stopworkplacebu
Some people will vilify you so they feel better about what they did to you. God forbid they be held accountable for their BS.

Tell me no Lies Narcissists @lovewins11011
A narcissist uses your anger against you when your anger is justified due to their shit behavior. They do this to deflect accountability.

If you reconcile with a narcissist after they have done something horrible to you, or violated your boundaries, the abuse gets worse. They’ll punish and blame you for whatever vile thing they did and assume that you’re ok with it because you allowed them back.

Stopworkplacebullies @Stopworkplacebu
You don't have to defend yourself or argue with those who don't believe you. God saw it all...

Josh @JD_Quotes2017
I don't walk away to teach people a lesson. I walk away because I learned mine. I'd rather adjust my life to your absence than adjust my boundaries to accommodate your disrespect.


Even when I am taking two steps forward and one step back going through life,  including, at times like this, I am greatly comforted by the Presence of my Lord and knowing that HE gave me this home, and I am in His Will, as I deal with all  these things, that are so discouraging, and destructive. The poem, "Footprints", which I included here, has blessed me so much as I continue my pilgrimage***.





* phobia - "A phobia is an anxiety disorder, defined by an irrational, unrealistic, persistent and excessive fear of an object or situation. Phobias typically result in a rapid onset of fear and are usually present for more than six months. Those affected go to great lengths to avoid the situation or object, to a degree greater than the actual danger posed. If the object or situation cannot be avoided, they experience significant distress." - Wikipedia

** the bane of my existence - "The bane of my existence" is an expression that describes a person, thing, or situation that causes constant annoyance, frustration, or unhappiness. It can be used to describe something that makes life difficult or unbearable.

*** 'Pilgrimage' is often used to describe an individual's journey through life, sometimes as a general description of personal growth and exploration, sometimes, as in Christianity, outlining a particular spiritual focus or pathway which it is believed will lead to encounter with God.

Tuesday, August 20, 2024

Here Are More Of My Poems And Lyrics....


a haiku 

Summer thunderstorms
Sound like God's bowling alley.
That thought makes me smile.



  Maybe There's A Reason


Maybe I'm just 

too plain, or too thin,

to catch the attention

of the right men.

Maybe my glasses,

or '32B's,

are the things that

are failing to please.

Maybe my age,

makes it too late,

for men to ask me

out on a date.

Maybe because

I seem solemn to some,

they never find out

I'm a whole lot of fun!

Maybe because

I'm a little too wild,

or maybe, for them,

I'm a little too mild.

Maybe   

my not finding love

is not because 

I'm not enough.

Maybe they're 

just not my type,

even when

they do seem nice.

Maybe they

just left a store,

as I was coming

in that door.

Maybe moving

out of state,

cost me the man

I'm meant to date.

Maybe I was

asked to dance,

and he assumed

I have romance.

Politics,

could be why,

I've not found love

with any guy.

Maybe there's

too many jerks,

and guys that have

repulsive quirks.

Maybe he

just doesn't see,

all the good things

about me.

Maybe he 

just got fed up.

Stopped his search.

Gave up on love.

He might be home,

watching TV,

not going out

and finding me.

Maybe he

just got a pet,

and now he feels like,

he's all set.

Maybe he thinks,

he is gay, 

or bi, or something,

but not straight.

Maybe someone 

stole his heart,

before we met.

Kept us apart.

Perhaps the one that

I was meant for,

joined the service

and died in war.

I am a 'night owl',

through and through,

and that could be

the reason, too.

Most folks rise

to greet the day,

but that has never

been my way.

It makes it really

hard to meet,

when they're awake 

while I'm asleep.

Or maybe God 

decided He

wouldn't make 

a man for me.

Regardless of

the reason why,

it is sadly true,

that I, 

have never met

my true soulmate.

It seems like

love is not my fate.



The Object Of Our Love


It's not what they are,

but how we feel,

that lets us know

our love is real.

We feel inspired by

stirred emotion

(which evokes

our deep devotion

to the person,

pet, or thing),

that woke our heart

and made it sing.

That is why,

if feelings change,

though that object

seems the same,

We see it  

in a different way,

than we did

just yesterday.

There's nothing

we can do about,

falling in love,

and falling out.





                                 Love Is A Drug    

Love can be a dangerous drug
when it's toxic but we can't get enough.
When we know that we should leave it alone,
but behave in ways we cannot condone.
It drives us to do things we normally wouldn't.
and act in ways that we probably shouldn't.
It alters the brain and short-circuits our thinking, 
causing poor choices like excessive drinking.
When love's unhealthy it can cause us great pain.
Keep us from sleeping and drive us insane.
It gets in our system and takes full control.
We are left helpless as it grips our soul.
Healthy love can cause us to thrive,
but toxic love can drive us to die.
Going through it is really rough.
I did survive it, but that was tough.
There's nothing worse than trying to get free
of loving someone who didn't love me.





He Didn't Protect My Heart


He looked me in the eyes,
and told me several lies.
The usual game guys play.
When for them it's not real,
they don't care how you feel,
or about what you have to say.
Their ego gets pumped,
and then you get dumped.
It was never about love for them.
Be careful who you
give your heart to,
or never do that again.


                   
                          
Boxes


Stop fitting into boxes
that other folks provide.
Climb out of those containers
and toss them all aside.
They don't get to tell you
who you're s'posed to be.
God's the one who made us 
each to be unique.